What My Style Says Before I Speak

Miranda Ubong
May 2
3 min read

Before I open my mouth, I am already telling the world something. The question is — what story is my style telling?

A woman's elegance makes its presence known before she says a word. It’s not always loud. Designer labels and curated trends or even color coordination are not necessary. It’s the kind of elegance that says: My personal identity is clear because my clothing reflects who I truly am.

For years, I thought style was mostly about taste — what looks good, what’s flattering, what’s “in.” But the older I’ve grown, the more I’ve come to understand: style isn’t just about how I look. It’s about what I’m saying — without words. The message I aim to express in every room should demonstrate calm assurance along with thoughtful presence and quiet strength.

Our style serves as our initial introduction to others whether we acknowledge it or not. Our style serves as our initial presentation to the world.

For years, I thought style was mostly about taste — what looks good, what’s flattering, what’s “in.” But the older I’ve grown, the more I’ve come to understand: style isn’t just about how I look. It’s about what I’m saying — without words.

Style as a Reflection, Not a Performance

I once dressed to impress while subconsciously copying others and selecting outfits that avoided criticism or earned respect but eventually began to ask different questions.

Does this feel like me?
Does this choice reflect my current state of emotions and spirituality and where I am in the seasonal cycle of my life?
Does this outfit serve as a disguise or a true representation of myself?

And slowly, things shifted. My wardrobe shifted to reflect my genuine self instead of the persona I had previously shown to others.

Your style doesn’t have to scream. It can whisper and still carry weight.

The Atmosphere of a Woman

The clothes I choose to wear directly influence the atmosphere I create. I’ve observed that certain fabrics affect my movement patterns with silk causing slower steps, linen grounding me and soft cotton tees calm my restless mornings.

Your clothes are not just coverings. Your clothing communicates signals to your nervous system while also influencing how you experience your day and interact with your body. I select clothing items that help me achieve a personal rhythm. I select my clothing to maintain my personal connection rather than to make an impression.

I’ve stopped following trends because I’ve decided to follow things that bring me inner balance.

Dressing for the Life I’m Building

Wearing clothes that reflect your true life embodies a sacred honesty because it avoids the false ideals shown on mood boards. For me, that means choosing clothes that support my lifestyle.

I started dressing for my true self once I stopped conforming to roles that didn’t suit me like being overworked or overly polished.

And that woman values ease. She values subtle detail. She selects clothing items that show signs of being well-used yet cherished and carefully picked.

When Style Becomes Spiritual

Dressing with purpose creates a profound spiritual experience.

It’s not vanity. It’s reverence. You express personal reverence by dressing thoughtfully and beautifully for yourself rather than waiting for special occasions.

My clothing choices influence my speaking style as well as my listening habits and how I fulfill my purpose. My entire day takes on a different flow when I choose to wear clothes that feel genuine to me. I make decisions from peace, not performance.

For the Goodly Woman style represents something deeper than just decoration.

It’s about expression with dignity.

It’s not about catching eyes.

The act involves returning to your true self and demonstrating this complete identity to the world.